You have passed by the lingerie window displays in the mall, or glanced at a catalog, and admired the graceful fall of sheer fabric, or the sleek fit of leather. You may have actually bought a sexy set of lingerie, which now rests in the back of your closet, or at the bottom of your drawer. Why aren’t you using that lingerie to enhance your bedroom experience?

To dress revealingly in public is easy. It gets you a lot of attention, but no real consequences for your wardrobe choices. It’s a tease without the repercussions. However, dressing provocatively for the bedroom implies a willingness to follow through with what your attire is promising. Wearing sexy lingerie for your significant other implies that you understand that it is, ultimately, going to come off.

Now, you must confront your feelings of self-worth, body image, sexuality, and the trust you have in your partner. To dress alluringly invites critique, and exposes your vulnerability which can cause great anxiety, unless you are at peace with yourself and accept your own flaws and imperfections. The woman who is sexually self-confident can share herself freely with her partner. Remember that “sexy” is an attitude, and has virtually nothing to do with how you look. Warmth, passion, and a willingness to share WHO you are; these are the building blocks of a healthy attitude toward intimacy. Believe in your own desirablility. The sexiest and most desirable women are those whose attitude says “This is who I am. I’m comfortable with that, and I’m happy to share it with you.”

Look again at that sexy lingerie in your drawer and see it for what it really is. It doesn’t represent the perfect you. It decorates the REAL you. Strut your stuff!